Keke is Not the Problem

The Double Standard for Women as Wives and Mothers

In the last 24 to 48 hours, the internet has been ablaze with discussions surrounding (Big Boss) Keke Palmer and her Girl's Night Out at the Usher concert. However, her boyfriend and the father of their child, Darius Jackson, decided to take his disapproval to the Twitter streets over Keke's outfit. Keke was oozing that "Mama has a life too" energy, and let me tell you, myself and countless others were here for it all! This whole situation got me thinking about society's unfair expectations of women once they become mothers.

Why Should Sensuality be Abandoned?

There's this prevailing notion that once a woman becomes a mother, her sensuality and vibrancy must be put on the back burner or, even worse, abandoned entirely. But let's pause for a moment and think about it: what attracted our partners to us in the first place? Most likely, it was our confidence, our allure, and, yes, our sensuality! So, why should we suddenly suppress those very qualities that made us irresistible? It just doesn't make sense!

Change and Self-Expression

Now, don't get me wrong. As we age and take on more responsibilities, certain aspects of our lives naturally change. We might not engage in all the same behaviors we did during our youth. But here's the important part: the decision to change is up to each woman. We should be able to adapt and grow without sacrificing our sensuality. It's all about striking that balance and embracing the changes that come with motherhood while still feeling sexy and fulfilled.

The Empowerment of Motherhood

I felt a surge of sensuality and confidence after becoming a mother, witnessing the incredible feat of my body creating another human being instilled in me a newfound appreciation for my womanhood. This is not to say that one is any less of a woman if they do not have children, but an undeniable transformation occurs when we become creators of life. We are more than just wives and mothers; we are individuals with ambitions, desires, and fantasies.

It's wack to witness the double standard imposed upon women when it comes to embracing their sensuality.

Before assuming these wife and mother titles, women like Keke, myself, and countless others were autonomous beings. We were women with degrees, women with business visions, and women with multifaceted identities. However, these aspects of our being do not cease to exist simply because a ring is placed on our finger or because we give birth to a child(ren).

It is time to challenge the societal expectations that dictate women must diminish their sensual selves once they enter these roles. Let us celebrate and encourage women to embrace their sensuality, to feel confident and empowered, regardless of their relationship status or motherhood journey. The true essence of a woman is not confined to prescribed roles; it extends far beyond them.